Hello, Lady Namera 2020 here, hoping you are doing well processing the New Year and its adventures as best you can.

Today I wasn’t planning to write but I saw an episode of NCIS that moved me. As I watched the episode I found myself more invested in the outcome of a 95 year old veteran than I would expect. This was fiction but it resonated with me as if it was my own story. At the end of the episode, my favorite character Gibbs had a conversation with McGee about the effects war had on him that was so melancholy yet so emancipating.

Why do we hold onto things that are not pleasant or thoughts we believe no one will understand? Have you felt off kilter as this year’s “new beginning” seems more like a stale continuation of Ground Hog’s Day than a fresh start? I know I am wired to keep things to myself and yes, this year feels so much like last year.

What does “Let It Go” versus “Happy” have to do with anything? Well that’s quite a funny conundrum. I have never seen the movie “Frozen” and thereby am not too keen on the song “Let It Go”. The song “Happy” was my theme song for a few years especially after I saw Despicable Me 2 (LOVED IT!!!). Up until maybe 15 minutes ago when I decided to look up the issue I had with the Frozen song, I learned I had no real reason to hate on “Let It Go”. You see, I recalled “Let It Go” winning over “Happy” during the 57th Grammy’s in 2015. Yes I can hold a grudge. What I missed was “Happy” did win two other Grammys. Oh my word!!! How did I miss that?? Huh? I opine you are wondering what?

Where this all converges to a nice conclusive muse is both are phenomenal songs that relay a TRUTH that you will miss if you hold on to things that need to be released. Letting “it” whatever “it” is go is fundamental to attaining and retaining happiness especially when we have no control of the “it”.

That little girl (the Latch Key One) from way back when who kept things close to her chest well into adulthood eventually learned to let things go in prayer and for a time to a psychologist who taught her about unpacking her mental closet of boxes to maintain her physicality and sanity. She’s even experimenting with the transparency of putting these ideas out there to total strangers who just might find some solace in her discovery.

You may let your “it” go through talking to someone, writing, working out or some other hopefully positive mechanism. If you haven’t found your positive outlet, I would implore you to find one. When you do, you too will find small reminders in everyday life or even a NCIS episode that reminds you of your humanity and how you can experience random spates of happiness through letting “it” go.

Wishing you a peaceful pleasant each day invested in things greater than yourself.

Until next muse.

Best regards,

Lady Namera 2020

Greetings Lady Namera 2020 here again, this time to provide a shoutout to making your voice heard.

This time out I must confess a few things. My initial title for this post was going to be “Catharsis Thy Name Is Blog”. Then I realized I may have been attempting a bit of psychoanalysis of myself which would take volumes of books to get through, so I figured I’d spare you some valuable time by focusing on introspection from the point of benefit to those who may choose to view my post.

Let’s get to it, from my perspective as I’ve written before we LKK’s (70-80’s Latch Key Kids) are very skilled at keeping our mouths closed. Remember the “don’t speak until spoken to” mantra of being seen but not heard taught us to keep everything close to our chest. Namely, because it was considered we did not have much valuable knowledge to provide. Well if you know any of us you know that couldn’t be any farther from the truth. So what does that have to do with you?

Interesting you should ask. When we use active listening vice waiting for the other person to shut up so we can talk, we give ourselves time to hear the message, digest it, and if need be provide feedback. Back to introspection, over the years I blamed my conversation mishaps on the war and my diminished ability to retain what I was about to say. The funny thing is that while there are residual issues I deal with related to my combat time my brain faculties are quite magnificent. Actually, yours are too when you realize and accept the absolute phenomenal brains we are given with intricate functions, capability, and capacity for knowledge. Marinate on that thought. You have incredible ideas that need to be heard.

Have you ever noticed your actions when you’re in a meeting with presumptuous types who insist on pontificating to make others overlook their insecurities? No, I’m not hating, just making an observation. Here’s the thing. Once you listen actively noting their perspective, line of thinking, agenda or lack thereof, and lack of qualitative information relative to the objective of the meeting, you mentally check out. Ok, maybe that is just me. Once I recover from boredom or as I like to refer to it as “valuable time I can never get back”, I take a deep breath, exhale, and start taking notes. Why so, I don’t fall asleep to stay focused on the task at hand. Before I walk into the meeting, I write one to three items to cover if time allows covering the most important if time is short.

Here’s the thing. When you have something to say, do not let those who must be seen steal your opportunity to speak. Instead, exude grace and patience then succinctly make your point. This cuts through the minutiae and makes the most profound impression. Less is so much more! Your few words will resonate with everyone in the room even the pontificator because you respected their time. They will remember most of what you conveyed and only 10-20% of the verbose pontificator. Boom mic drop! Knowledge provided.

In case speaking in public bothers you check out the article or blog buttons below to help achieve the impact you desire.

Have an amazing each day on purpose for a purpose that is greater than you can imagine. Then you will know immense joy in the knowledge of your impact especially when you remember to use your voice.

Best regards,

Lady Namera 2020